Sending Taylor off to North Dakota to start his first real job

Posted By on September 20, 2013

willistonNDweather130920Taylor left at about 6AM this Friday morning with a U-haul trailer full of belonging to start his new job and make his mark on the world. The drive to Williston, North Dakota will take him to his halfway point in Minneapolis tonight where he will meet-up and stay with his long time friend Alicia Frost. I know he is looking forward to seeing her, but not necessarily leaving the many friends here in Cincinnati … that far northwest corner of North Dakota is a long way away (and a bit chilly already too!)

I’ll be heading up after a previously planned wedding on Saturday in order to help him unload and set up his apartment. I’m not necessarily looking forward to the trip and unloading (thought my days of being a mover were behind me?), but I am glad to be flying rather than driving and taking the Amtrak back … which was my original plan. Still, I had to burn way too many frequent flyer miles to cover a $1000 ticket; no matter which way you look at it, the flights to Williston and connections are not easy or cheap.


Brenda and I are finding it far more emotionally difficult that we expected to send him off by himself. It is surprising to me since he takes trips all the time, been overseas for extended periods as a student ambassador and for mission trips … and we never thought twice about sending him off to college? Maybe it’s the distance or just the remoteness?  I can only imagine what parents must feel to send a “child” on an overseas military deployment.

Taylor says goodbye to Tootsie (our “family” dog, but the two of them are buddies)

I know he’ll do fine and that his new “planning career” will benefit by working in a high growth area like Williams County, North Dakota. One thing is  for sure, he won’t be bored.  Drive safe Taylor … see you in a couple days.

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  • Hans Wilmitz

    Good luck Rich’s son!

  • Thanks Hans.

    A friend of mine sent me this from John Maxwell … sort of fitting when children leave home.

    Who is responsible for what happens in your life? Do you believe you should take personal responsibility? Or do you feel as if that is outside of your control and there’s little or nothing you can do about it?

    Psychologists say that some people possess an internal locus of control, where they rely primarily on themselves for the gains and losses in their lives. Others possess an external locus of control, where they blame others when something goes wrong. Which group is more successful? The group that takes personal responsibility. Which people are more content? The ones who take personal responsibility. Which people learn from their mistakes and keep growing and improving? The people who take responsibility.

    Taking responsibility for your life is a choice. That doesn’t mean you believe you are in control of everything in your life. That’s not humanly possible. But you can take responsibility for yourself and every choice you have.

    When you take responsibility for yourself, you take responsibility for your learning. The earlier you do this, the better the potential results. Professor and Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist William Raspberry had good advice regarding the importance of taking responsibility and making right choices when we are young. He observed,

    If you want to be thought of as a solid, reliable pillar of your community when you’re fifty, you can’t be an irresponsible, corner-cutting exploiter at twenty-five. . . . The time to worry about your reputation is before you have one. You determine your reputation by deciding who and what you are and by keeping that lofty vision of yourself in mind, even when you’re having a rip-roaring good time.

    If you take responsibility when you’re young, you have a better chance of gaining wisdom as you get older. For some of us, it takes a long time. I sometimes feel that only after turning sixty-five did I begin to understand life. Now that I’m officially a senior citizen, I can say there are two things I know about my life. First, it has contained many surprises. My life didn’t turn out like I thought it would. Some things turned out better than I imagined, some things worse. No matter who you are, it’s impossible to know how your life will turn out.

    Second, as long as I take responsibility for the things I can control in my life and try my best to learn from them, I can feel contented. Unfortunately, my personal challenge has been keeping myself from trying to control things outside my sphere of influence. Whenever I’ve overreached in that way and things have gone wrong, it has caused me to lose focus, waste energy, and feel discouraged. That has been a hard lesson for me.

    If you can find the right balance where you take responsibility for the things you can control and let go of the things you cannot, you will accelerate your learning process. But even if you learn the lesson late, you can still benefit from it.

    Adapted from Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn (October 2013)

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  1. lacking in consistency, constancy, or visible order, disconnected; fitful: desultory conversation.
  2. digressing from or unconnected with the main subject; random: a desultory remark.